Red flags on dating
Christan Marashio, founder of And Thats Why Youre Single.com, adds that “it's normal for people to have some trouble crafting a profile and to use self-deprecating humor to lighten the mood.Too much humor is usually a sign that the person is insecure and uncomfortable with being vulnerable, which could lead to problems with emotional intimacy down the road.And I have never heard anyone give themselves such pious, sanctimonious airs about motherhood who is anywhere near the precious, loving little saint of a mommy they’re so desperately trying to convince people they are.Genuinely good, selfless mothers don’t talk the way you do. There are predators who do specifically target unwed mothers for especial attention because they’re looking to find someone who is emotionally vulnerable so that she’s so pre-occupied that they have easy access to kids to do what they really want to do to kids. Single moms do not need extra drama in their lives and if the man is bringing the drama and forcing her to decide “it’s either me or the kids” then she is right to deep six that guy!He may be legitimately finished with his marriage emotionally, but the paperwork isn't final. They may be on a trial separation, seeking variety, or way too fresh from a bad relationship to date seriously.” And if the person is still talking about their ex, that’s a red flag. Another one should be added: When a woman says her children come first, over everything else. However, to me, it means I am going to get stood up a lot; that when I am with someone they aren’t going to give me their undivided attention when we aren’t with her kids; and that a woman isn’t really interested in a relationship and is hiding behind her kids.What he/she’s looking for: Requiring too much or too little are both red flags. If the person really doesn’t care, they’re probably looking for a “date,” not a relationship, or he or she may be looking to scam you. When I’ve dated women with children, you can’t believe some of the things parents have called me. I used to date a loser who “worshiped” his supposed ex. Thank God I dumped the POS and now I’m dating a decent guy!But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.
And Mc Dermott recommends steering clear of people who don’t have kids but use undue space in their profile soliciting information about the age and sex of your children. And, interestingly, marriages that begin online are less likely to result in separation or divorce, and those that remained married are happier than their offline counterparts.