Racist online dating
(“Every kind of way you can measure their success on a site — how people rate them, how often they reply to their messages, how many messages they get — that’s all reduced,” the site’s data scientist once told NPR.) Research published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences has also found that “racial segregation in romantic networks” is not only “robust,” but “ubiquitous.” I ask Russell if he’s at all aware or concerned that white people already had the upper hand in online dating.
“It’s our right to have this business,” he replied — the “we” presumably referring to white people, generally.
But there is a problem with the success angle (which could be a legitimate preference, although in my opinion it makes the women look completely shallow)... even when you take a black guys profile and correct for education (add a college education), and add a middle class income, and show that the guy is decent looking..has a wide variety of interests, he will still face discrimination for being Black. I am open to dating women from all ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. But I am better off for having lived there during some crucial years growing up.
But the fact is, I don't usually fit what Black women tend to look for. I don't like to go to nightclubs, entertainment venues, or social gatherings that they may go to, and I would love to send Jay Z and Beyonce to Alcatraz..that I never have to hear anything about them again. I just don't tend to get along with Black women (generally speaking). The racism in dating indeed seems to vary in terms of degree of ugliness depending on what part of the country you are in.
(Russell would not share how many had actually become paying members.) He insists that the reaction has been overwhelmingly positive thus far; it’s the people criticizing him, he says, who don’t truly understand the true nature of race and racism.
Although that billboard depicts a smiling white couple, Russell insists that anyone over 18 may join, regardless of race or ethnicity.
(“If you’re a black man who prefers to date white women, this might be a good option,” he said — presuming you can get over the object of your affection’s stated racial preferences.) It costs a month to message other members, and the site’s terms of service specifically prohibit messages that “promote racism, bigotry, [or] hatred.” “The site is not racially motivated in any way,” Russell stressed.
This individual was just bold enough to come out and say it. They just do it passively by not contacting Black men or not responding. ) when she can have a great White, Asian, Indian, or Hispanic guy..more money, nice toys (cars, etc), and she can avoid all of the staring and ugly comments..the backlash and embarrassment from friends and family? they won't have tainted skin (unfortunately there are people who think this way). PBS and Independent Lens, recently took a look at this subject (See Video). has to have tattoos, has to have this thing they call "swag" (just typing that was painful... and he has to be at least rough around the edges..a criminal record won't hurt either. I have known, read about..plenty of good looking women of color... But it's not just poor women w/ low education making these choices or who have these stupid dealbreakers. since I don't fit that image (the idiotic, aggressive, obnoxious rapper) I am not on radar screens of most Black women. I loved Texas for the few years I lived there growing up.
My attempts to date interracially have mostly failed.... No one wants to be ashamed or embarrassed to bring a guy around friends & family. or see embed below: The white male is synonymous with money and success. There is this thing in the Black Community (God I hate that term)... This is ingrained in the minds of most Black women. Black women today (particularly those 21-35 give or take a few years) are trained to look for different traits and characteristics when determining what the ideal guy is. That is like a badge of honor..women reward these men accordingly... Of course there are also the Black women who have the shallow physical standards -- as mentioned before the 6ft rule is a common one...often a dealbreaker. Even the BBC recently did a story on segregation in present day St. Even back then (early 1990's) it seemed more socially progressive.
He doesn't even have to have much money or success... (White men have it pretty good when it comes to the dating scene. She stated that she was not used to being treated like that.... an unwritten code that says if you are a gentleman.... The old school gentleman of color is out of style and has been for quite some time (men like my father... these men literally get more offers for intimacy than they can handle. I stand about 5'6 or 5'7..I am considered too short. Somewhere in the neighborhood of 50k-60k is often the absolute minimum you can earn to afford her. Louis makes matters worse, because this is one of the most segregated metro areas in the U. I witnessed racism..there were a lot of mixed race couples in my High School. And my first crush (a majestic, gorgeous Mexican girl for which I have seen no match to this day... But Kansas...being in the Midwest..perhaps an anomaly.